October 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Couples usually come for counseling with a surface presenting problem. It could be an affair, addiction, abuse, anger, parenting concerns, integrity issues, or basic communication problems. We use assessments to identify surface areas of conflict as well as deeper personality issues. The surface issues can be challenging. to be sure, because old habits are hard to change, but the personality issues are by far most difficult and resistant to change.

In marriage counseling, one and sometimes both have narcissistic tendencies or even narcissistic personalities. Marriages where both husband and wife are narcissists usually do not survive. When one person is a narcissistic there is a “dance” or style of relating to each other that ...

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October 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Introduction

Young men are driven to conquer: school, the woman, business, a sport or task. Some men even conquer their food when they eat! Young men want to conquer. Why? To conquer is to succeed but somewhere along the way young men grow older and come to realize that significance means more than success. Let me explain.

I would contend that young men and women are striving for SUCCESS but as they get older their striving for success turns to searching for SIGNIFICANCE (men) and searching for SECURITY (women).

Men, Success, and Significance

Definition of Success (Merriam-Webster Dictionary) is obtaining "a favorable or desired outcome." In our world success is measured by the Big 3: FAME, POWER, WEALTH. There is a ...

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October 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Deep down everybody knew that mom needed to leave the family home. She could no longer keep up with all the work but who would convince her to move? On top of that, the family was divided. Some family members wanted to see her stay in the home and hire help for her. Some wanted to move her into an apartment or townhouse. Some wanted to skip the in between steps and move her directly into a senior assisted living center. How would they ever resolve this dilemma especially since emotions on the subject were running so high? This scenario is faced by countless thousands of families every year as the parents of Baby Boomers age. A family meeting could be a great and positive answer.

What is a family meeting?  A family meeting is a ...

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October 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

CHRISTIAN PARENTING CLASS BEGINS OCTOBER 10, 2018

Yes, that’s right. The Christian parenting class, Growing Kids God’s Way, begins in less than two weeks but you can still register! Openings are available for the class but you must make a decision and act quickly.  

Growing Kids God’s Way was the first major parenting curriculum written for the Christian community and has served over two million households. The principles contained in this curriculum are biblical and have stood the test of time. Growing Kids God’s Way provides parents hope, encouragement and practical instruction in their duty of raising morally responsible and biblically responsive children. The curriculum serves parents of ...

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September 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

First time obedience? Really? Is there such a thing these days? Is it even appropriate to teach obedience or do we want to encourage children to make their own choices?

The child rearing years are typically the most challenging years of a marriage. Parenting is a full time occupation for which most people are not adequately prepared. Without instruction, the tendency is to duplicate how we were parented (with the underlying assumption that we turned out “Okay”) or to choose the opposite parenting style. For example, if someone was raised by excessively rigid parents, that person may choose a more permissive parenting approach. If someone was raised with too little guidance, they may choose a more structured and strict parenting...

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September 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Dr. Neil T. Anderson writes, “We live in rebellious times. Many people sit in judgment of those in authority over them and they submit only when it is convenient or they do so in the fear of being caught” (Steps to Freedom in Christ, p. 14). The truth is it is sometimes difficult to submit to those in authority with whom we disagree or who are poor leaders but the Bible requires us to submit to all in authority over us. “The only time God permits us to rebel against authority is when they require us to do something morally wrong or attempt to rule outside the realm of their authority” (Steps, p. 14). As a rule, God does not bless rebels.

One definition of submission is “to allow God to lead us through other ...

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September 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Elsie and I celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary this year. Yep, we got married in 1968. I was the ripe old age of 22 and Elsie 21. We were very young, very immature, and selfish. By the grace of God we stayed together and grew each other up. One reason why we stayed married through all the ups and downs of our marriage is we took our wedding vows seriously. When the minister asked us to repeat after him, “I, Irv/Elsie, take thee, Irv/Elsie, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I plight thee my troth," we meant every word...

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September 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Who taught you how to parent your children? You probably didn’t learn it in school. Did you learn how to parent from your mom and dad? Did you learn by “trial and error?” Parenting the next generation is a daunting task indeed. All of us need help in learning how to do it biblically. We want to reach the hearts of our children, not simply get external compliance. Elsie and I want to come alongside you and help you do that.

We are launching the biblical parenting class, Growing Kids God’s Way. Originally released in 1986 and updated in 1996, the Growing Kids God’s Way Series 5th edition, (DVDs and Workbook) was the first major parenting curriculum written for the Christian community, and has ...

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August 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Simply stated, wise people learn from their mistakes and fools do not. The Bible says that foolishness is in the nature of a child (Provides 22:15). It is the responsibility of parents to train their children in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6) and teach them righteous and responsible attitudes and actions. The foolishness of a child is often childishness — meaning that they naively do wrong things because they haven't been trained to know better. Childishness can cause accidents, including serious accidents, so it is important to instruct our children concerning childish behavior.

Consequences help us learn, so even for childish accidents, corrective action must be taken. For example, if a stray baseball accidentally ...

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August 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Modern psychology does not acknowledge the existence of the demonic. There are no categories in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-V) for demon possession. Secular psychologists choose to label those manifesting symptoms of the demonic as having Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD). As Mayo Clinic reports, DID is rare (under 200,000 in US per year), incurable (treatment can help but not cure), chronic (lasts a lifetime), and requires a medical diagnosis. Symptoms of DID include fragmentation into two or more distinct personality states (alters) and often memory loss. Most psychologists attribute the cause of DID to childhood abuse.

Interestingly...

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