August 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Simply stated, wise people learn from their mistakes and fools do not. The Bible says that foolishness is in the nature of a child (Provides 22:15). It is the responsibility of parents to train their children in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6) and teach them righteous and responsible attitudes and actions. The foolishness of a child is often childishness — meaning that they naively do wrong things because they haven't been trained to know better. Childishness can cause accidents, including serious accidents, so it is important to instruct our children concerning childish behavior.

Consequences help us learn, so even for childish accidents, corrective action must be taken. For example, if a stray baseball accidentally ...

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August 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Modern psychology does not acknowledge the existence of the demonic. There are no categories in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-V) for demon possession. Secular psychologists choose to label those manifesting symptoms of the demonic as having Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), formerly called Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD). As Mayo Clinic reports, DID is rare (under 200,000 in US per year), incurable (treatment can help but not cure), chronic (lasts a lifetime), and requires a medical diagnosis. Symptoms of DID include fragmentation into two or more distinct personality states (alters) and often memory loss. Most psychologists attribute the cause of DID to childhood abuse.

Interestingly...

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August 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Hopewell Counseling is an L.L.C., a Limited Liability Corporation. We are not a 501(c)(3), tax-exempt corporation. This means that we cannot issue tax-deductible receipts for donations. What this does not mean is that folks cannot donate to Hopewell Counseling. They simply would not be able to claim their donation as a tax-deductible gift on their income tax form.

Why does Hopewell need donations anyway? Good question. Many of our clients are either unemployed or underemployed and simply do not have the financial resources to afford counseling even though they desperately need it. We ask them to apply for financial assistance using a scholarship form. They humble themselves and comply. We reward their humility by providing a portion of ...

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August 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

We see many couples in counseling who have tunnel vision. What I mean by that is all they can see are the things wrong with their partners. It’s like they have their hand about one inch in front of their eyes and all they can see is the bad. If they took away their hand from their eyes they’d see all the good things which they love about their partner. Because of the hurt and the pain of the bad things, they often announce to their partners that they no longer love them. In fact some will even go so far as to declare that they want a divorce. Really? Is marriage built solely on love? That's a pretty fickle foundation. Love is certainly a big part of why we marry, but it shouldn’t be the only or even the biggest reason....

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July 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

We have a red loveseat couch in our office at Hopewell Counseling. Couples who come for marriage counseling typically sit together on the couch while Irv and I sit on chairs facing them. As we counsel with them, we are hopeful that they will gain insight into their situation and that they will learn some new ways of relating to each other and better ways of handling problems and concerns. 

During the past four weeks I have been learning some lessons myself – not from the red couch in our office but from our couch at home. I have been spending a lot of time there due to a significant injury to my right shoulder from a fall on Memorial Day. I think it is important not to waste the pain, and I think it is interesting that some of ...

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July 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

The number one song on the contemporary Christian music charts is “Reckless Love” written by Caleb Culver, Cory Asbury, and Ran Jackson and published by Bethel Music. You’ve probably heard it on a Christian radio station. It has some wonderful lyrics:

Before I spoke a word, You were singing over me
You have been so, so good to me
Before I took a breath, You breathed Your life in me
You have been so, so kind to me

Chorus:

Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God
Oh, it chases me down, fights 'til I'm found, leaves the ninety-nine
I couldn't earn it, and I don't deserve it, still, You give Yourself away
Oh, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God, yeah

We sing it at our ...

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July 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

Signed in convention on September 17, 1787. and ratified June 21, 1788, the preamble to our constitution is a masterpiece of power and brevity. Here’s what it says,                                                                                        

We the People of the United States, in Order to ......

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July 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

When Elsie, the children, and I moved to Minnesota from California in 1982, we were taken on a driving tour of the west metro by one of the couples on the call committee of the church. We had moved into the comfortable parsonage but were unfamiliar with how to get from there to the church. So the goal of the tour was to acclimate us to our surroundings, show us the nearest supermarket and gas station, and help us navigate our way to the dentist’s office (one of the kids had an abscessed tooth). The couple pointed out various sites and the tour was informative if uneventful except for a remark by the husband. He pulled me aside and said to me that coming from California I was in for a culture shock. The culture in Minnesota was unique ...

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June 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

This month I want to honor and encourage fathers. I also want to challenge Dads to the very high standard of their God-given responsibility to their children. “ . . . Children are a gift of the Lord . . . like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth.” (Psalm 127:3) Parenting is hard work, but God is faithful to supply all that we need to parent well and aim our children like arrows towards knowing Jesus. Children are a precious treasure that we are called to steward well. When they are grown, they will represent us and the Lord well or they will not. The formative years of childhood pass quickly and fathers and mothers must be diligent in how they mold the precious lives entrusted to them. ...

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June 1, 2018 @ 8:00 AM

The statistics I’ve read indicate that Americans are not getting sufficient sleep. The average in 1942 was 7.9 hours of sleep/night. The current average is 6.8 hours of sleep/night. 43% of American say they would feel better if they got more sleep. Not surprisingly, older adults got more sleep and 20-30 year old adults with children under 18 got the least amount.

Why does it matter whether we get 5 hours (like Winston Churchill) or 8 hours? Again research has shown that if we are shortchanging ourselves on sleep we will be less efficient and more irritable. Our brains will not be as nimble and our response times will be longer. This means that we will be less able to concentrate, more prone to making mistakes at work, and more likely...

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