October 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

When couples come for premarital counseling, we talk about being team players. We give them two assessments to help them gain personal insights and also relationship awareness of strengths and growth areas. PREPARE/ENRICH is the assessment that looks specifically at the dynamics of their relationship. One of the most important things they need to know going into marriage is what they have in common and how are they different. What do they agree on and what are the areas of disagreement? Though there are other factors to consider as well, in general, couples who have similar interests and values are more likely to be like-minded and able to function as a team. No two people see eye-to-eye on everything. Differences keep life interesting and ...

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October 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Few terms in our modern world evoke more disdain than the term “repent.” Upon hearing the word, many envision a long bearded, wild-eyed man carrying a placard that reads, “Repent! The end is near!” To many repent means complete upheaval of life to become a religious zealot. Is that what it means to repent and, if so, why would anyone repent in the first place?

The Bible paints a very different picture of what it means to repent. The Greek word for repent is metanoia which means a change of mind or thinking. A change of mind does not simply happen. It is typically preceded by pain, crisis, and brokenness. We are stubborn creatures and until we experience pain and misery we resist changing. The status quo, no matter ...

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October 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Does it seem to you, as it does me, that wisdom, true godly wisdom, is in short supply in the world in which we live? Notice I said true godly wisdom. There is a wisdom of this world which is ungodly. It is “earthly, natural, and demonic” (James 3:15). Worldly wisdom results in jealousy, selfish ambition, disorder (chaos), and everything evil (James 3:16). We see worldly wisdom manifested on every front in our culture: on college campuses, in the media, from Hollywood, in politics, in homes, and in corporations. Whenever we hear or read about policies, values, actions, or teaching that flies in the face of what the Bible teaches, we are seeing worldly wisdom on display.

So what does true godly wisdom look like and, more ...

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October 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Five times General Joshua, Moses’ handpicked successor, is told to “be strong and courageous.” Joshua is taking over as the new leader of the 12 tribes of Israel. He will be the one who will cross the Jordan River. He will be the one to conquer the land. One time Moses tells Joshua to “be strong and courageous” (Deut. 31:7) and four times the Lord God tells Joshua to “be strong and courageous” (Deut. 31:23, Joshua 1:6, 7, 9). Can I suggest that Joshua might have been nervous and perhaps fearful to undertake the task of leading this rebellious people and conquering nations superior in number and firepower? I think so. Moses knew he was fearful and so did God. In fact God tells Joshua in 1:7, “...

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September 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Anxiety disorders are the most common mental concern in the United States, affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18% of the population every year. Approximately 8% of children and teenagers experience an anxiety disorder. Most people develop symptoms before age 21. Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet many who suffer with them do not receive treatment. A combination of genetics and environment are considered to be the main factors contributing to the cause of anxiety disorders.

Anxiety disorders often co-occur with other disorders such as depression, eating disorders, and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Anxiety treatments include medication, psychotherapy, and complementary health ...

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September 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

As we conduct couple counseling, Elsie and I often hear from clients that they believe their spouse is trying to confuse them or tells them that they’re losing their memory, or making things up, or going crazy. Counseling professionals call this form of abuse “gaslighting.” Rather than try to explain it in my own terms, the National Domestic Abuse Hotline defines it well with corresponding examples. Here’s what they say on their website, www.thehotline.org:

“I never said that. You’re making things up again.”
“Are you sure? You tend to have a bad memory.”
“It’s all in your head.”

Does your partner repeatedly say things like this to you? Do you often start questioning...

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September 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

When Elsie and I were newlyweds, I went to work for my dad and his advertising agency in Chicago, Illinois. I worked for him for a little over a year before I went off to basic training in the United States Air Force. Because Elsie and I lived in an apartment in Glen Ellyn, Illinois, it was convenient for my dad to leave his home in Wheaton, Illinois, pick me up, and keep on going down the Eisenhower Freeway into the city. The trip took approximately one hour depending on traffic levels. For one hour each way my dad would talk to me about customers, sales, promotion, product art and design, production, in short, how he did business and led an ad agency. It was my graduate course in business. I learned a ton! So much so that when my dad was ...

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September 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Let’s think theologically for a few minutes. Since God is sovereign He can do anything He pleases, right? As the King of the universe and the Creator of everything He has the right to rule His creation. He’s the Boss! Romans 9:21 teaches us of this sovereign right in describing God as the Potter. “Does not the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use?” The answer demanded is, yes He does.

What about man? Don’t humans bear responsibility for their decisions, good or bad? Yes, they do, but humans are not sovereign over the universe, God is. We have a free will and must bear the responsibility for our choices.

Consider this important ...

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August 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Irv and I recently took a road trip to Kentucky where we visited the Creation Museum in Petersburg and the Ark Encounter in Williamstown. Both are sponsored by the Answers in Genesis ministry which is led by CEO and founder Kenneth Ham. Ken is an Australian Christian fundamentalist, young earth creation apologist, and he lives in the United States. Ken Ham’s stated goal is to help and encourage Bible-believing Christians to know how to defend biblical creation.  Both attractions present the salvation message and evidence that throughout God’s Word points to salvation through Jesus Christ.

This was a long anticipated as well as outstanding inspirational experience. Irv and I are sign readers. With every turn through the Ark...

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August 1, 2019 @ 8:00 AM

Whenever I hear the term “idol” my mind immediately conjures up the image of a large golden statue in the form of a distorted human with multiple arms. It probably goes back to images I’ve seen of the idols worshiped in India. Most of us think of idols as statues made of silver or gold or carved out of wood usually in the shape of a human being but idols are more than physical statues, aren’t they? Idols are anything we worship and which displaces the Lord as God in our lives. Surely, then, Christians should have no problem with idols since we worship the Lord God (YHWH). After all worshiping an idol is a violation of the second commandment, “You shall not make for yourself an idol, or any likeness of what is ...

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