May 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

Sometimes, if we are honest, we just want to complain. We want a listening ear and someone to sympathize with us. What we really want is someone else to solve our problem for us. That is often the case when people come for counseling. Without the client being fully on board, taking ownership of what they are responsible for and doing their work, things will not change. Problems will not go away simply by talking about them. Expressing issues and concerns aloud to someone is a place to start. But then what? We must ask ourselves important questions like: how did I get to the place I am in right now, and what am I going to do about it? It is important to speak or journal how we are feeling and what we have learned. What are the “take ...

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May 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

We see it all around us. It bombards us through television, social media sites, magazines, virtually everywhere. What am I writing about? I’m focusing on the values and standards of the world. They all reflect the values and standards of the devil. We all know the devil is “the thief who comes only to steal, kill, and destroy” (John 10:10a), but how does he go about doing that? What is his playbook for working his nefarious purposes? I would suggest to you that in Romans 1:18-32, the Apostle Paul pulls back the curtain to give us a glimpse of the devil’s playbook. Let me walk you through each play that he uses to bring the utter destruction of God’s highest creation.

Play #1:  Eradicate the internal ......

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May 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

“Do not love the world, nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him . . . the world is passing away and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God abides forever” (1 John2:15, 17a).  The world does not think like Christians think. Their values are different; their beliefs are different; their destinies are different. Christians cannot afford to emulate the world and its values lest they become like them. James 4:4 warns Christians, “. . . Do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.” You can’t live with one foot in each camp. You have to ...

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May 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

I only met with them one time when they came for marriage counseling. Gilly Gilbert and his wife, Lyla, were having troubles with their three sons. The two adult sons, who had moved out of the home, were drinking heavily and carrying .38 caliber guns. They were in trouble with the police and were wanted for questioning in a number of incidents. The youngest son was still living in the home.

Gilly was a rough customer. He was a construction worker who bragged that he had killed two men in a bar fight in his past. He threatened to kill both his sons if he caught them. I believed him. Lyla was the polar opposite of Gilly. Lyla was a five foot tall woman in her early fifties with mousy brown hair. Lyla was so quiet that she rarely spoke during...

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April 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

We think of integrity as being honest and truthful. It is that, but it is more. The definition of integrity in the American Dictionary of the English Language (1828) by Noah Webster includes the idea of wholeness, entireness, and being complete. It refers to the entire, unimpaired state of anything, particularly of the mind, moral soundness, and purity. Integrity means pure, genuine, unadulterated. Righteous integrity is all about being real and living up to a high moral standard. Integrity is genuine and based on moral absolutes. It is the gold standard of character and the essence of the Ten Commandments. Integrity reflects the character of God Himself. Do you think integrity matters? It absolutely matters to God and other people.

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April 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

Are you a cell phone addict? How would you know? What separates cell phone addicts from normal cell phone users. Let’s start with the cell phone addict. The cell phone addicts, hunched over their cell phone punching furiously on the keys, are oblivious to the world around them or the person sitting across from them. There’s always one more email to send or text to read, one more game to play, one more TikTok video to watch, one more score to check on ESPN. They say things like, “Hey I wonder if anyone new has ‘friended’ me on my Facebook account? What are others saying about me? I think I’ll send a photo of what I ate for breakfast to my followers.” Cell phone addicts are typically on their phones 6...

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April 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

No, this article is not about people who love those golden slices of deliciousness served at Perkins or the Waffle House. This article is about those who have a difficult time making a decision and bounce back and forth between options. Wafflers can’t make up their minds and when they do make a decision, they constantly second-guess themselves on whether they made the right decision. Waffling drives them and everyone around them bonkers! So, why do they do it? Why can’t they make a decision and stick with it? Are there any biblical examples of wafflers? Finally, what’s the answer for chronic wafflers?

Let’s start with the “why” question. Why do people waffle when it comes to making a decision? Here are ...

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April 1, 2022 @ 8:00 AM

This is second of a two-part article on the causes and cure for depression. In the first part, I covered eight of the most common causes of depression: exhaustion, fear, finances, health, family, addictions, loneliness, and loss. The common denominator linking all depression is a feeling of hopelessness. Depression tells us there is no hope of things getting better, no hope of change. You’re probably depressed from just reading all of this! So the question is, “How can we overcome depression? Does God’s Word have anything to say about this most prevalent of mental illnesses?” Yes, it does.

Probably the clearest and most detailed account of a figure in the Bible who struggled with depression is the prophet Elijah. In...

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March 1, 2022 @ 7:00 AM

We do not often hear people talk about character. We might refer to someone as being “a character” but not as being a person of character. What is character and how can we identify it? I recently rediscovered a book in my bookcase entitled, Character Matters! Raising Kids with Values That Last by John and Susan Yates. It is well worth reading. It describes character qualities that are important for our children to learn but also important for all adults to know, practice, and teach by example. We cannot instruct our children in the way they should go without leading the way. Whatever we do not teach our children, they will learn somewhere else. We cannot assume they will automatically absorb desirable values without our daily ...

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March 1, 2022 @ 7:00 AM

There is a worse pandemic than COVID-19. It is a pandemic that annually kills more people through suicide than COVID. That pandemic is depression. This is the first in a two-part article on depression in America. Depression is the prevailing mental illness of this generation. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, an estimated 21.0 million adults in the United States had at least one major depressive episode in 2021. This number represented 8.4% of all U.S. adults. Why? Why are so many Americans depressed? Causes of depression are hard to determine but here are eight suggested reasons:

  1. Exhaustion, burnout, fatigue. Many Americans are exhausted and have nothing left in the tank to withstand the pressures of ...
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